Updated: Mar 3
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Ok Sis, now that we got pleasantries out of the way it's time to get candid. I woke up feeling a way this morning so I'm going to jump on my soapbox real quick. Are you living the life of your dreams? Are you at least attempting to get there? If you're trying daily, this post isn't for you. In fact, I'm proud of you! If anyone hasn't told you lately, GOOD JOB!
But for the ladies going to a job daily that you hate, making excuses about why you can't do better or crying about what mama and Rae Rae didn't do for you. STOP IT NOW! You are your only obstacle. Let me say it again.... YOU ARE YOUR ONLY OBSTACLE. People can't give you what they didn't have (mentally and financially) but that doesn't mean you can't get more or do better, you just have to make the choice, not the excuse. Go sit on the couch (therapy), heal, and get to work!
Mindset is EVERYTHING!
If you use words like I can't... then you won't.... replace it with let me try. If you keep saying I don't know how.... then you never will.... replace it with let me learn. Start telling yourself you're capable because you are! You're already amazing you just have to remember who you are.
The same way you trade time for money at a job you can trade time for money for yourself.
You might be wondering how? When you get off work I know you're tired, I understand. But take at least one hour to sew something (that you can sell on Etsy), or write a page of a book (that you can publish on Amazon), or take a class or apply yourself in some way that can help you gain skills for your dream job. Before you know it 1 sell will turn into 10, 1 page will turn to 100, and that $30K job will turn into $200K.
At some point, the excuses have to get old
If you love to travel but you don't because you have no one to travel with. That's not an excuse there are plenty of travel groups you can join. Yes, you may not know the people but you'll meet new people. You say you don't have money. Payment plans are available! Stop getting Starbucks for a month and eating at Chipotle and Zaxby's and you'd be surprised at what you can afford.
Beyonce and Oprah have the same 24 hours in a day.
Somethings I admire about successful people are... They're constantly learning, they don't let negative events stop them, and they let their imagination propel them. Just because you graduated, quit, or are done with school doesn't mean you should ever stop learning. Life is constantly evolving. You can't be an a-track player in a streaming kind of world you have to evolve. Can you imagine the type of imagination and rehearsing it must have taken to create Beyonce's Coachella performance "Homecoming"?
Stop all that limiting belief!!!! You can't cause you decided you can't. You can be a size 10 jeans you just have to decide to make the necessary life changes. You can be a supervisor you just have to start showing up like you're already the boss arrive early, ask questions, and be helpful to other employees. Ask for what you want! We all know the saying closed mouth don't get fed. Ask for whatever you want! No sometimes means not right now. Regroup and ask again.
A resource that helped me change my mindset was a Movie/ Book called The Secret. Click Here to change your entire life.
I don't know who this post was for. But let this be a kick in the butt, a sign from God, encouragement, a lecture, reminder or whatever you need it to be. We are all in this life together trying to make the most of it. If you aren't living the life of your dreams it's because you made the choice not to better yourself.
I love you!
Talk to you soon!